” She looked slightly taken aback (hardly surprising, considering there was absolutely no preamble) and said “Pardon?” He replied, “Well, it’s lunchtime and I just wondered if you have had yours yet.” After confirming she hadn’t, he continued: “Shall we go and get lunch together, then?
And once you are married, your wife is the most important relationship you have besides your relationship with the Lord.
Your effort and energy should go to her first, always. I was splitting my efforts 60/40 percent between Audrey and my friend. Although I was not married to Audrey yet, when you are dating intentionally, the principle remains the same. If my relationship with my friend in Santa Barbara had progressed any further, I would have been choosing my friend, over Audrey.
I was once told by a man that he couldn’t take his eyes off me all night because I looked like such an interesting person, so he had to come over and talk to me.
(It worked and I don’t even care that it probably wasn’t true). Though perhaps that shouldn’t be attempted as a first line either.
Simultaneously, Audrey and I were in a long-distance relationship. but I couldn’t understand why, because in my mind we were just friends, maybe even in her mind too. There came a time where, despite my lack of understanding at the time, if I wanted a healthy relationship with Audrey, I had to say goodbye to my friend.