Minor betrayals are by no means deal-breakers, but they can definitely ruffle our feathers and hurt our feelings.
Their focus and commitment to their relationship keeps them on the straight and narrow. Because women with traits of BPD are not capable of withstanding any kind of betrayal, the nice-guy type’s ability to override selfish impulses and give to her consistently turns him into her perfect knight in shining armor.
She believes he will provide her with the kind of guarantee that she knows she must have in order to feel safe in a relationship.
Women with traits of BPD may appear to be capable of overriding their natural selfishness when they are in the throws of new love.
However, once this motivation dies down, they lack the skills to sustain their focus on their partner’s needs.
Passion and excitement may attract a future mate initially, but long-term relationships require self-discipline.