Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.
In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.
Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.
And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved.